Let Go Of The Past And Embrace The Present

We have to open the windows. We have to discard the bookmarks we left behind in the middle of old books. We have to take the pictures down from the walls that no longer have any meaning to us. Let go of all that no longer exists. Let go of the past that you no longer recognize in the present.

Try to stop making such heavy movements. Try packing everything in small boxes. They have the same function, but without taking up so much unnecessary space. So much space that it can end up being uncomfortable and annoying.  Let go of the past and just keep what’s worth sticking to. If you do not, the new things to come will never find a place to be.

Imagine an endless amount of precious flowers and gold pieces that, in response to a storm, seek refuge in any ancient vessel. There are vessels that are filled with such harmful and useless things that there is no room for all the good that the storm brings with it. Or at least accommodate a small part that can slowly illuminate its contents. Don’t you think it’s time to dump them?

Let go of the past and your memories, for the future contains hope

If you keep fond memories of your past, you may feel lucky. Preserve all these memories, only look back when your strength weakens. Look back to gather strength from what you once were and can be again. If the memories you preserve are not very good, if there are too many areas that you do not want to regain, you are in luck. All the best has not yet come.

Everyone reacts differently

Below we will tell a story that clearly exemplifies this idea.  The true wisdom lies in transforming everything you have learned from bad past experiences into something useful and functional in the present. You need to remember that situations of extreme pain test your strength. But they also serve as catalysts to help you become aware of your strengths.

“A son complains to his mother about his life and how everything is so difficult for him. It seems that as soon as he solved one problem, another appeared. His mother leads him out into the kitchen. There she filled three pots with water and put them over the fire.

The child waited impatiently and asked himself what his mother was doing. Twenty minutes later, the mother extinguished the fire. She took out some carrots and put them in a bowl. She took out some eggs and laid them on a plate. Finally, she made some coffee and served a cup.

She looked at her son and said: what do you see? Carrots, eggs and coffee were his answers. Humbly, the child asked: what does this mother mean? It’s chemistry, she explained. The three elements have been under the same treatment: boiling water. But they have reacted in different ways based on their characteristics. The carrot became soft. The inside of the egg was hardened and had produced a shell surrounding it. However, the coffee was reaching its boiling point and able to deliver its best aroma. ”

Some people who have suffered from serious illnesses or important traumas in their lives have forgotten all the pain and retained the best part of the situation: resilience. This ability to be reborn in a non-defensive way makes you stronger and at the same time more flexible. They know how to put the new problems into perspective and turn them into opportunities. They know that one day they will be able to cope, and they are aware that they will be able to do it again.

The past should never be a burden but a responsibility

It is not good to carry a bottomless backpack full of guilt and mistakes from the past. You need to reflect for a brief moment and perhaps grieve over any discomfort. But for the life lessons it brings, make all the space they need for the rest of your life. This is the difference between the past that makes you sad and the past that transforms you. Calm waters never created a good, strong sailor.

“Delicate men and cities live their lives and remember where they come from. Big men and strong cities only need to know where to go. “
–José Ingenieros–

You do not owe the past a single explanation. Simply respond to the responsibility its life lessons have projected for your future. This applies to friendships, love, work, habits and hobbies. Many psychologists are interested in a patient’s past history, not because it is relevant or determines what happens now. But rather to understand whether a person’s actions in the present are a simple defense mechanism against pain they have drawn from their past.

Stay persistent, let go of the past and try again

On October 21, 1829, Thomas Edison lit the first light bulb, and it remained lit for 48 hours. This was undoubtedly a big difference in duration from the others. Here is an interesting fact: the filament used in this light bulb was not metallic but carbonated bamboo.

From then on, Edison continued with many attempts until he got a bulb that could provide up to 1,500 hours of light without burning out. Isn’t that a wonderful metaphor for understanding the situation you are currently in?

Perhaps you have also experienced countless unsuccessful attempts to turn on the light in you with something that really fits and works in your life. If you keep trying to turn on that light while insisting on producing something that turns it off, your best invention will never work.

Instead, if you know all the formulas you’ve already tried without success in the past, it’s time to leave them. Stop using them, open the door so they can disappear completely, and let go of the past. And as it happens, a wave of new things fills the space you have left empty and receptive. Some things come from the dark, but they rarely shine within it.