Is It Good To Stay Friends With Your Ex?

Much has been said that  it is not the healthiest or best solution to remain friends with your ex. Because there is a chance of falling for each other again. We may fall into the same dynamic we once liked, even though the type of friendship has changed.

Some professionals believe that it is better to cut them off completely after the breakup, to build a life where there is no room for your old partner.  On the other hand, there are those who think differently and protect the idea that someone you have had a good relationship with can continue to bring something positive into your life in a different way.

Reasons why you should not be friends with your ex

If you have had a toxic relationship, it is not good for you to remain friends with your ex.  This is someone who does not bring anything positive into your life. Instead, they drown you in a sea of ​​trouble. A certain serious situation in the construction of a toxic relationship is when there has been some kind of abuse in the relationship.

On the other hand, we all know that just because a relationship is over does not necessarily mean that love, from a romantic point of view, has disappeared from the hearts of the members of the relationship. If the feelings are shared, they stay in both people – most usually they find couples together again.  Unless there have been conditions like the aforementioned.

If the feelings are not shared,  the breakup tends to be complicated. The person who is in love tends to get into quarrels over their density and distance. Their emotions cause them to keep their old partner close to them. But the sensation of having broken up with them pushes them away. For this reason, this way of ending it tends to completely ruin the relationship.

One of the best arguments for cutting an old partner out of one’s life is  to avoid conflicts with a new one.  If there is anyone who can provoke jealousy in a person, it is their partner’s old flame. Old boyfriends are seen by the new partner as a source of temptation for their partner. It is  one of the weakest points where their love, which they now share, can be destroyed.

So it is not unusual for a new partner to insist that we cut off a relationship with an old flame. Usually they do it in an indirect way: they create so much conflict that the current partner can not stand it and definitely ends the old relationship. But  this is not a dead end:  mature people can handle the situation and adjust so that there are no conflicts or breaks.

Is there a positive side?

It can be there. Love that is over does not mean that the relationship is over. In fact, people who once loved each other tend to always take care of each other. Although the way they do it is changing. In other words  , those who are important to you do not stop being important, no matter if the contact is maintained or not. 

An old partner knows us. They know what hurts us. They know our hopes.  Maybe the love is over. But they can still read our faces and maintain a certain level of understanding for us. This is something that is very difficult to achieve. There are amazing conditions that take several years to become strong, after which we just cut them off completely.

Why can they not keep making us happy?  Why can’t they keep bringing positive things into our lives? Right now, I can not think of a universal reason that can answer these questions.

Ultimately, keeping in touch with an old partner is a  personal decision. It has risks and can lead to conflicts. But it can also be a good source of benefits and joy. Although it is not the same as before. You are the one who needs to be intelligent  and keep in mind the circumstances that have been mentioned here as well as others you can think of. Based on that, you need to make the best decisions.