Happiness Comes From Acting And Being Active
We all want the day when we can close our eyes, take a deep breath and feel the happiness running through our veins. Who does not like to feel comfortable and ooze happiness from their pores?
The problem is that happiness is not achieved overnight, nor does it miraculously enter our lives. Being happy is more than just waiting and adapting. It is about deciding, acting and building with personal values and motivation as your foundation. Happiness is an internal state of being. That’s the key.
“Happiness is not something finished. It comes from your own actions. “
–Dalai Lama-
The trap of passivity
It is common to think that you are unhappy because happiness just has not come into your life, and to ask yourself when you want to be happy . But the thing is, happiness does not depend on time, external circumstances, or luck. It depends on you and what you do to achieve it.
According to Sonja Lyubomirsky, professor of psychology and researcher of happiness , 50% of our ability to be happy is influenced by genetics, 10% by external factors and 40% by what we believe and do. Therefore, the weight of our thoughts and actions is 4 times greater than the things we cannot control. So there is no excuse for not working towards your own happiness.
If you are not happy with the way your life is now, you probably will not be either in the future unless you do something to change it. Complaints are not a means of unhappiness or the bridge to well-being. It’s just a trap that links you to apathy and distress.
Inactivity is tempting and we are used to it, but it does no good for us. There is no excuse; if you want to be happy, then you have to act. Do you really think that sitting there and doing nothing will make you happy one day? If you do the same thing you always did and did not get different results, then why do you keep going?
What does happiness mean to you?
As we have seen , to be happy, an important factor you can control is your own thoughts. The biggest determining factor in whether you want to be happy or not is your own concept of happiness.
What does happiness mean to you, to him, to her, to me? It’s a pretty common question, but people do not often take it seriously. But if you never ask yourself, how will you ever know if you are happy? Even if you think your answer is wrong, you should at least ask the question.
In doing so, there are many related ideas to keep in mind. For example, happiness is not the feeling you get when you buy a new car or a new house. It has little to nothing to do with material things, other than having your basic needs covered. The feeling that the material things give while it is comfortable is still superficial . It’s not about quantity, it’s about quality.
Happiness is not a smile, though it does help to have one. It is not living without worry , but the ability to face reality and create an environment that makes you feel comfortable without causing harm or using other people as objects.
True happiness is a state of being.
If you want to be happy, you have to be determined
It’s not enough just to be happy if you do nothing about it. This is the most important part because it all depends on your thoughts, actions, feelings, decisions, willpower and movement.
You choose whether you are the protagonist of your own life or a spectator on the sidelines. The former will give you satisfaction, while the latter will make you feel like a victim. It all depends on you. All your decisions will affect the path you take.
Another thing to remember is that happiness requires bravery to face your fears and protect you from insecurity. You will not be happy if you do not believe you deserve it, so it is very important that you believe in yourself. For happiness is an attitude, a state of being, cultivated from within, through movement.
