Disable Your Ego To Love Fully
The ego has a limited view of reality. It only accepts its own point of view, its own way of understanding the world and its own way of loving. Few things can be more harmful and destructive than selfishness. It’s whatever it comes to friendship, the workplace or a romantic relationship.
The ego likes when things are as they want. That the world must be organized according to its own perspective, to its own personal perception of what is good and bad. It does not like unforeseen or spontaneous situations or reactions that are out of its control or that express someone else’s own will.
To love fully we must deactivate our ego. Thus, we allow others to love us freely, to let them be human beings with their own free will and not be who we want them to be. Love given spontaneously and fully is without a doubt the most perfect and authentic form of love.
That which lies behind the mask of the ego
It is normal to enter into a relationship with people who show abilities that are valuable in principle. Aspects such as security in itself, attitude, a great deal of self-confidence and even protection, can dazzle us to begin with.
But over time, this protection becomes obsession and a need for control. So we have to conform to their patterns. In other words, what we first confused with protection is, in fact, a fear that we will escape their control and that we will point out their weaknesses.
People with a big ego seek more than anything else to be recognized by others. Especially by their partners because they are not able to recognize themselves. And the reason for that is fear. They cover it with their ego in order to survive.
In fact , disabling the ego of someone we love is not easy. When we discover it, or when we discover that their abilities are a two-sided sword, and they use their egos to create expectations that we have to fit into, it makes clear that all they are doing is trying to fill their own emptiness through dominance and an unhealthy bond they use to hide their insecurities behind.
The many faces of selfishness
The ego has many faces and we are sure you already know some of them:
- To use sacrifice as a weapon
- Seek to be recognized for everything they do, say and express without thinking of anyone but themselves.
- Burden you to remove the burden from their ego.
- Looking for someone to blame for problems and situations they create.
- Refuse to be spontaneous, try new things or get out of the routine. Not to let you enjoy your hobbies in your private space.
- Block your personal growth.
Learn to disable the ego
We must understand that the ego removes us completely from mature love. Mature love is given freely and fully to the other person in the relationship. This means that we value what we have in common, but always respect the personal growth of each party.
If your partner is the epitome of selfishness, set boundaries from the start and make it clear that love is not judging, controlling, or filling one’s own emptiness and insecurities through manipulation. Love is not to burden anyone. It is personal growth and perfection.
It is necessary that we stop what our ego wants and that we begin to enjoy things as they happen. Only then will our awareness of love awaken. It will give way to spontaneity every day, a freedom that has no ties and where everyone is in control of themselves, and at the same time part of a common plan.
We must not forget that many of us are in a way a little selfish regarding emotional demands. However, everything has its own balance. If we let the ego act with all our intensity, we will never see the reality of things. Instead, we will see our own needs and the negative emotions they create.
Photos by Benjamin Lacombe, Toon Herlz
