Take Time To Get Up Slowly Again

Do not worry if you do not manage it all today. It’s okay, if you still can not get up, take your time. Do not forget that the lives of broken people are broken and the pieces can even be contagious. It can hurt when you try to walk, breathe and think. Just rest, start feeling the pain, embrace your wounds. Do all this, because little by little your body will feel lighter and your mind will feel stronger…

Albert Ellis used to talk about how one of the mechanical things we do every time we go through a disappointment, a loss, or a traumatic event is to blame ourselves. And something else we do a lot of the time is a kind of “contempt” for ourselves, for not being able to cope with our lives. Not to find the energy to get up in the morning or the courage to confront certain situations and circumstances.

Take time to get healthy, no matter how long you need it. Because it’s all a trip where no one knows their arrival date. But the only thing that is certain is that you will come to the other station – the station of peace, inner peace and well-being.

It is almost as if you are trying to run, right after you are twisted on your ankle . You get angry for feeling the pain and not being able to walk as fast as your mind wants. You ignore the fact that your foot has an injury that needs to be treated. You need a break treatment. And you have to start realizing that for a while you will not be able to walk, not run at all.

Take your time, but use that time well

Take your time, as much as you need, and not how long other people tell you to take. Everyone has their own rhythm. Everyone needs their own patterns, strategies, internal revivals and external support to stick to and work on every day. Understanding that is basic . Until now, whether you like it or not, you had some wrong ideas that stopped you from starting the healing process.

A piece in “Perspectives on Psychological Science”  says that an idea of ​​how we are all naturally resilient has become popular. People will constantly tell you that everything heals with time. That you just have to let your brain do its work. Then, little by little, it will bring out the internal strength to get rid of stress or overcome negative situations.

It is wrong. Time does not heal anything alone. We also do not have an auto-pilot to turn on, to guide us along the road to resilience. Something the researchers from the study say is that these ideas put you in a true setting of psychological passivity. You sink in quicksand where you wait for a cure that never comes.

Ideas you need to stop believing in, around psychological healing

Popular psychology and some spiritual currents tend to plant certain misconceptions in us. And they are very far from what the research actually shows. Accepting many of these ideas can end up slowing down your psychological healing. Therefore, you need to keep some of these false myths in mind. Here they are:

• Time heals everything (false) ⇔ What you do in that time is what heals you.
• All pain lasts only three months (false) ⇔ Everyone needs a certain amount of time to cope with loss or fracture.
• Strong people can handle anything (false) ⇔ What does it mean to be a strong person ? Feeling someone as “strong” can make them feel that they need to get better as soon as possible, and that is dangerous.
• We are all resilient (false) ⇔ Resilience is something you work on, develop, sharpen and personalize. It is based on your characteristics and needs. It is not a spontaneous awakening. It’s a craft you need to learn and practice every day, not just when you need it.

Take time to go to sleep, to heal

We said at the beginning that we get angry at ourselves when we do not heal quickly. When we are not running as fast as we would like. Or for not being able to be the same people all the time. This is because we live in a world that tells us to be well all the time. We must always be functional and show a picture of pure radiant happiness.

But life does not come with Instagram filters. You can not improve your state of mind, with just a single click. It takes some time and effort, and above all a deliberate focus . So now we want to tell you about two simple strategies to do all that.

• Take time to go to sleep. It does not mean sleeping and isolating yourself. This means using one of the benefits of the physiological process that hibernating animals put into practice – conserving energy. If your body just can no longer, if your mind is exhausted, then rest. Stop putting other people first. Put all the external noise aside so you can meet your internal needs.

• Take time to heal. No matter how long you need, not how long others say . Remember that healing is not a journey with departure and arrival dates. It’s a process, a hike without comfort, where you should not look around the landscape or what surrounds you – focus on yourself.

Last but not least, do not forget that it is a good idea not to say no to company during the healing process. You just have to choose good travel companions . Choosing a good partner who can guide you through the process makes it easier. They will help you recognize that before you can run free, you must learn to walk again.

You can reach it and it will take some time, but you will reach your goal.