To Love And To Be Loved: Emotional Tracks

In today’s society, there is a very widespread idea that trauma is the only thing that leaves its mark on us. We overlook the importance of other events, such as loving and being loved. We are of the opinion that only negative things leave a mark, a mark, a scar or a trauma. So we push love and other emotional tracks far away from this.

In general, when we base our thoughts on television, movies, and books, we may begin to think that society believes that an emotional trace is the change that takes place in a person who has been through a traumatic situation.  Usually, this change is quite radical.

Therefore, as we saw in the beginning, anything that is associated with emotional traces is obviously bad or painful. It certainly fits that trauma creates real pain. But  what happens in positive cases? How about loving, and being loved?

In search of love

The question has been asked: what happens in positive cases? Do they leave their mark on us? The answer is yes.

Let’s start by asking the right questions. Can positive events affect our behavior, our emotions, and our thoughts?  If something good happens to us, if we get good news or a good job, for example, will we notice any changes?

Our personality is composed of behaviors, emotions, and thought patterns over time. So if we experience positive events for an extended period of time, will this not leave its mark on us?

And finally, we can say that loving or being loved is one of the most beautiful and positive events that can occur in our lives, if not the most. Perhaps this is one of the powerful engines that man has inside. It is strange to think that with the number of neurons, hormones, behaviors, thoughts and emotions associated with love, our personality should be able to be totally impenetrable towards it.

If we love or are loved long enough (something enormously personal and variable), our personality can change. Is love an emotional trace if expressed correctly?

Psychology has had a lot to say about love and the bond created between people. But perhaps we are better able to understand how loving or being loved affects us, through an example.

An example of loving and being loved

We’ve had our partner for a while now. It’s been a while since we last had a relationship. Then this person showed up and disturbed our world a bit.  Or at least they are struggling to do so. For we have also lusted after our scars. It’s hard for us to believe that we’ll fall in love again. With everything we have suffered under! We are no longer schoolgirls and schoolboys either.

As the relationship moves forward, we unknowingly forget that we kept our impulse to enjoy it back. We forgot we would not jump directly into the pool. So while that person is secretly working on filling up the pool, they make us more and more want to jump in. And we end up doing it, over and over again, with even greater joy.

Finally, full of hope, we try to find a place for them in our lives. That person becomes part of our mentality, our joy and our expectation of life.  We go back to being ourselves, without deception and secrets. If we live together, there are discussions, stupid discussions, ridiculous things and habits that are more or less unpleasant that we end up accepting.

But  as part of the magic, we discover that aspects of ourselves that we regarded as lies have now been completed and forgotten.  Such as empathy for a person we love. Concerns about their well-being. The impossible moves in us where we once had nerves of steel. It is the desire to share and enjoy. And most of all the kindness in us that we considered impossible and too much like a movie to be true.

The change…

We discover that we are changing, in short. We change, not because of the person for whom everything seems fine, but because of the feeling that has been created in our mind and heart.  In fact, we change and accept that change with joy and gratitude. We forget fear and overcome our scars and trauma. We leave a much deeper trace than in the past, more visible, and from that moment on, much more beautiful.

Why such a big effort?

Throughout this article, we have made an effort to convince ourselves that  love can have a far greater strength on our psyche and personality than negative events.  This can of course be both true or false. We must take all factors into account for both outcomes. So why such a big effort?

Honestly due to justice. Justice for that feeling, for healthy relationships and positive emotions. Every single day we see situations where negative emotions, clichés and stereotypes are created based on loving and being loved. Discussions that keep us from throwing ourselves into the pool again. Latent fear, limitations in our ability to be happy in a relationship.

For this reason, this is an encouraging message. A message to all those who are hesitant to jump in. To those who tend to focus on scars and cannot see where a mark will be left. Or to those who know they want to jump in but are afraid to do so. Why not  get a few more emotional tracks? Let them be good this time.

So we can not just feel grateful and proud of our feelings and emotional traces. We can also be grateful for what we have become by experiencing these traces. We should be aware of them and understand them. The result of basing oneself on loving and being loved.